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A 37-year-old Kenyan man who married a 72-year-old American woman has opened up about their marriage ahead of their wedding anniversary this Saturday.
Bernard Musyoki, a businessman based in Malindi, and Deborah Jan Spicer tied the knot at the registrar of marriages office in Nairobi on February 4th, 2021.
On their big day, Musyoki bought a ring worth Sh50 while Deborah spotted an old ring.
Even though Deborah is almost twice his age, Musyoki believes that theirs is true love that can conquer anything.
“I don’t have a choice on who I fall in love with. She is the perfect person, it just happens that she lives thousands of miles away,” he told a local news outlet on Monday.
“I bought a ring worth Sh50 for my wedding and my wife used the one she had. She told me she didn't mind the fact that I got a cheap ring. What mattered to her was me, her prince charming.”
Musyoki met Deborah, a resident of the US state of Michigan, on Facebook and they fell in love although friends and relatives were opposed to the relationship.
Despite being married, the love birds do not live together but they do many things together despite the long distance. Musyoki last saw his wife in June 2021.
“Our anniversary is on February 4 and both of us will go to a hotel and we will have a meal on video call. Because of time difference, she will go for lunch and I have dinner so that we can be in sync with the time difference,” he said.
“We do everything together, we shop together, take walks together, cook together, sometimes I might encounter something interesting and she is the first person I want to share it with. This has made us grow fond of each other every passing day.”
Asked about the challenges in their long-distance marriage, Musyoki said, “We experience challenges like any other relationship, sometimes I miss her so much. With distance, you don’t know sometimes what your partner is up to and so you need all the reassurance you can get.”
The man observed that when a couple trusts each other and is committed, they can overcome anything, including long distance.
“I take care of myself, I am faithful and I know my wife is faithful too. I cannot cheat on her because I know how that would hurt her and break our marriage,” he added.
Musyoki had planned to visit his wife in the US before their marriage but he was denied a Visa. He said the Visa application is a long and rigorous process requiring proof of the relationship as well as financial records.
“It was hard saying goodbye and not knowing when we’ll see each other next. I hope we can finally be together soon, she is the best thing that ever happened in my life,” he said.
“Good communication is key, don’t let a day pass without communication. If you can meet each other’s communication needs, you can feel like your partner actually isn’t thousands of miles away.”
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Do you know Kalamazoo?
Well well well.Two things come to mind;
1.Ticket to the land of milk and honey
2.Why break my back chasing poor ndogo ndogos...Yeap, its a win win deal.She get's attention and validation From a stud,and not being hurried to the nursing home.
Anyway, people marry for various reasons.Who is to say one reason is better than the other? And according to my friend,and expert in that department@ Formerly guest2- ,"love is only a 1% factor in marriage.The rest is trade offs.What you bring to the table.Not the bed...
Whether the marriage will last till death splits them, nobody knows. What I know is that,the union stands abetter change of survival if they live in a third world country like Kenya where some"worship" wazungu.
I also know that,the feel good sentiments are lulled from the buffeting rigor of living together,and constantly violeting each other's personal space. Those who are married know what Iam talking about... Yeap sometimes you wake up and ask yourself," could I have done better... what the heck did I get into"
That said, I wish them a happy honey moon,and joyous union.
To each his own.
Soft landing for a brotha, husband cum household CNA. Congratulations
Heko WaMuzee.WATAONGEA WATACHOKA.Uko na Dame na hakuna matumishi-mala amekula fare,mala nywele,mala Odolono na kadhalika.Ya muhimu makaratasi itaiba Mala tu ukipata viza.
Alright Musyoka! Good Lord Almighty! Ok boy make her day! At 72, your sugar mama has done pretty good to catch some young steak.
Good Lord ! Respect the union.It's his wife now.They are married. Iam having a hard time figuring out whether Musyoka is smiling or grimacing from the weight of his beautiful plus size wife leaning on his skinny frame.
Please, be respectful! It is Musyoka’s business and taste on the size he decided to marry! He is not like @maxiley who runs around with some short legged Mexican chiwawa whose legs are planted deep inside the huge belly. Are you still talking …….??????
So pointing out that someone is beautiful,and has alittle extra weight is something that bothers you?
Like @wesley said to you above, it is not your business to point out other people’s discrepancies. I am sure you got a milliard of faults anyone can point out about you @maxiley! Your taste of “short” women isn't the standard for all. Leave the young man alone and concentrated on your insecurities. What is wrong with the white lady having a little extra weight; you know it all??
@ Willys, whatever you are smoking is obviously affecting your judgment,and understanding. Please show me in my own worlds where Iam disparaging this man's wife? If anybody has insecurities and are bothered,it's you.I dont understand why you are interpreting "extra weight" as something to be ashamed of.Layoff that smoke,and clear your mind.
I think the ugliness of life in America, and specifically in Tampa, has gotten deep into your cranium @maxiley. You don't even remember what you wrote a few blocks above your block nose. What is really wrong with all of you Luhya men? You surely must stay high on cocaine 24/7 @maxiley. Fix your state of mind before you start cutting others down! It is quite unnecessary for a dude of your height (6.4 feet) and old age of 68 to engage in silly shenanigans like a Toddler.
I would have been disappointed if you had not commented on my post. Thanks plenty you made my day.Iam also delighted to learn that toddlers in your neck of the wood are pretty intelligent-Smarter than senior citizen...
Maxiley when they go low, we go high. Hiyo tuu. Kumbe you are 6'8 ha ha ha
Haiya matusi jameni. Agree to disagree cordially, no need to get so personal dang!
They are employing the fallacy of Ad Hominem,where instead of facing someones argument oridea, they attack the personality of the person making the argument. I guess it makes them feel good to inject irrelevant issues in the arguments they cannt win.A simptom of intellectual deficiency.Its some kind of therapy.Gives them the feel good moment.I see why your friend Sukari said"Fxxk this"
@ Willys, I dont see anywhere @ Maxiley saying that there is something wrong with the whitelady having alittle extra weight.Infact he says she is beautiful .Are you hallucinating?
Wazungu hawana haya! But again this is better than the white old boys who come over to Kenya to molest underage girls.
Hahaha I love the comments. But of course we all know what's really at the bottom of the "marriage", don't we?
You got your hands full bro! Love is very blind and love is chemical! Get the papers before the love wears out American way. So at least you can beat out Trump while at it. Do it as you please!
Really! This granny has no shame screwing around with her nephew.
At 37 he is no spring chicken... Have you ever heard of sexless marriages?
Wazungu wazee wana moto kubwa. Try it
Musyoki, do what makes you happy and ignore busybodies, especially relatives kwnanza shanghazi from your dad's side. Those are usually the first ones to run their big mouths.
Better this than the sewage marriage the West is pushing on gullible Africans. Bure kabisa!
He is not smiling but grimacing wondering what exactly he got himself into.Look at the woman she is looking directly into the camera while he is looking down in an effort to shield his eyes .Body language says it all “yenyewe hii makaratasi nitatoboa kweli🫤? You just might get the papers before your wife is shipped off to a nursing home and in time for president trump version 2 this crazy Americans might bring him back
Hahaha @ Guest, that's all I wanted to know.Was it a grimace or a smile? But all these attacks on my are targeting her weight,which I have no problem with,like them.You interpreted my comment the right way.I will drink one for you...
Brace for insults from Fatphobia and senior citizen crying ageism.
Ha ha. I was tempted to comment but I value my peace ha ha, today I shall also chin chin for you 6'8 mlunje heh! Where is our lady friend from UK when we need her, she disappeared
@ Formerly Guest 2. Thanks. chin chin for me.Iam sure @Shirley had no idea that her comment would elicit such vitriolic attacks on someone's "character".What I believe is that, the majority of Mwakilishians are not swayed by these pseudo -cheap- one minute- psychiatrists claiming to know what one is thinking,..
This forum could be a great intercourse and exchange of ideas sans insults!
All the best passport bro.
She's in Lansing, MI with Tyrone & Demarcus laying down some great pipe on the side.