Stress Blamed for Deaths of Kenyans Living in America
Kenyans living in the United States have been in the headlines lately, albeit for the wrong reasons.
Barely a week passes without news of a Kenyan who has either been murdered, committed suicide or involved in the killing of a fellow Kenyan. In the last two months, at least 10 Kenyans have either died or been involved in bizarre incidents resulting in other people’s deaths.
In most cases, the victims have been members of their family - mainly women or children.
On Tuesday last week, the body of a Kenyan man was found hanging from a tree at Lafayette Park in Jersey City, New Jersey. The dead man was later identified as Mr Jeffrey Kilibwa who was a resident of the city. A woman walking in the park had called the police upon seeing a man’s body dangling from a tree . Police have ruled out foul play saying the Kenyan man, whose age we could not establish immediately, committed suicide (READ: Police in New Jersey Launch investigation into Death of a Kenyan Man).
Not too long ago, police in the same state were called by neighbours who heard a commotion in a house belonging to a 43-year-old Kenyan who had struck his wife, Bilha Omare, in the head with a golf club following an argument. Upon realising the wife was not dead, Mr Justus Ogendi Kebabe took an electrical cord and strangled her until she was no more.
He then drugged two of his children, 12-year-old Kinley Ogendi and 9-year-old Ivyn Ogendi and killed them while one struggled and begged him to stop. Kinley was drowned in a bathtub and Ivyn was suffocated with a pillow. Before he was sentenced to serve 72 years in jail, Mr Kebabe confessed to a judge that he had committed the murders because he suspected that his wife was cheating on him (READ: The Kenyan Man Who Confessed To Killing His Family In MN Gives Motive And Details Of The Murders).
Recently, police in Indiana shot dead a Kenyan man after he stabbed to death his six-year-old daughter and wounded his wife. The St. Joseph County Metro Homicide Unit said the man, identified as Edward Maina Mundia, was shot and killed as he viciously continued to stab six year old Shirley Mundia, even after the police ordered him to stop.
The little girl was rushed to the hospital where she was pronounced dead while the mother continues to receive treatment ([VIDEO] Kenyan Man in Indiana Stabs 6-Year-Old Daughter to Death, Shot Dead by Police).
Only last week, Ian Muriu, 33, shot dead his mother-in-law before turning the gun on himself in Barrow County in the state of Georgia (READ: Kenyan Man Kills Mother-in-Law, Turns Gun on Himself in Bethlehem, Georgia).
In the same week, a 21-year-old Kenyan man died from injuries inflicted in a beating by several assailants in the US city of Indianapolis, Indiana.
The local media reported that 21-year-old Felix Davy Achoch, a student at Ivy Tech Community College, was involved in an altercation inside Club Vision in Indianapolis. The fight then spilled to the parking lot where the Kenyan was assaulted by several people, according to a US based online publication, Mwakilishi.com (READ: Kenyan Soccer Star in Indianapolis Dies Before Fulfilling Dreams).
The killing left Mr Achoch’s family devastated. “You would not think something like this happens in America,” said his brother, Foster Achoch. “Nobody should die like this.”
And early this week, a 32-year-old Kenyan man died after being shot in mysterious circumstances in Dallas, Texas. Dallas County authorities said police were called to McCallum Boulevard following the shooting. They arrived to find Mr Elisha Ogolla, a Mechanical Engineering student at a local university, lying in a parking lot with multiple gunshot wounds. Following the incident, local police are offering a reward of $5,000 to anyone with information which may lead to the capture of the suspect (READ: Kenyan Man Killed By an Armed Robber in Dallas, Texas).
Although reports of Kenyans committing suicide and killing members of their families is nothing new, this latest spate is raising eyebrows even among the authorities in the United States.
“We find it bizarre that most homicide cases reported among the immigrant communities are involving Kenyans who are numerically outnumbered by many other nationals,” said Detective Chris Wells of Homicide Division at Georgia Bureau of Investigations (GBI).
Experts say many factors are contributing to the escalation of the wave of killings.
Dr Joseph Wamutitu, a US based psychotherapist recently told the Nation that stress among Kenyan men is a key element.
“Few people talk about this but life in the US can be very stressful especially for immigrants who come from totally different background in Africa,” he said.
Dr Wamutitu said that women find it easier to adjust to life abroad compared to men. He points out that the United States is a very individualistic self-centred society and this has had an adverse effect on the Kenyan man as we know him.
He observes that due to the hectic lifestyle in Western countries, Kenyan men have no social support systems. “They mostly keep to themselves, bottling up a whole lot of things. When they cannot hold it any more, they explode. The results vary, but in most cases, they are devastating.”
His sentiments are echoed by Dr Jennie Odhiambo, a psychologist who works in a mental hospital in Boston, Massachusetts. “In many ways the society here favours women more than men. More often than not, our Kenyan brothers feel intimidated by the fact that they do not have total control of their wives as was the case with some of them back home. Within no time, the centre cannot hold and the results are disastrous.”
She adds that many Kenyans do not trust one another. “It’s very rare to see a Kenyan man opening up on personal issues because there is little or no trust among his compatriots here,” says Dr Odhiambo.
But the immediate former Kenyan ambassador to the US, Elkanah Odembo advises Kenyans to be well prepared before they relocate.
“Most young people come here with little or no knowledge of how tough life can get. They rely on misleading information gathered from the internet and TV. The reality on the ground can be humbling,” he told the Nation.
- Sunday Nation
Since 2008 recession stress has gone up;Most industries where men work like construction and manufacturing (IndaSTRIO AREA) were affected;and some women(not all) tend to judge men on their employment status becoming less supportive when unemployment creeps in.
Most men(not all) on the other hand will support their wives whether employed or unemployed.
Societies are evolving; including Kenya; and people have to adjust to survive.There are many women in Kenya who are lawyers and doctors etc and are happily married.
People have to sit down and talk out things without bias.
The US is in a tough spot not just for immigrants but for everyone.When most Kenyans came here in the 90s and late; the Kenyan economy was at -0.7% growth everyone one was running away. The US economy on the other hand was at 7%+ end of Clinton era. Now the roles have been flipped; Kenyan economy though still in development stage is growing faster than US; thanks to global dynamics and the "new Sheriff in Town (CHINA)"
70% of US jobs are in the service industry a significant amount requiring some education.Manufacturing requires less education.so people are competing for few opportunities and many women can fit into the service sector easily such as elder care and places requiring communication skills...customer care etc...men on the other hand unless they go to school and get into TECH ETC...the other options left are security,driving etc which are limited with the current high unemployment;WHICH LEADS TO STRESS.
Still there are thousands of Kenyans who have managed(inshalla) to go to upgrade their skills,start families with Kenyans or non-Kenyans and maintain some balance.
THE SOCIAL DYNAMICS IN THE US ARE CHANGING PARTICULARLY WITH THE ECONOMIC CHALLENGES AND THIS IS AFFECTING EVERYONE;INCLUDING FAMILIES; MORE SO IMMIGRANTS WHO CAN FACE MULTIPLE CHALLENGES.
BUT DONT GIVE UP KEEP TRYING; IF YOU REACH THE END KENYA IS ALWAYS THERE TO WELCOME YOU!
Stop going to the US !! Oh wait we can't !! The rush to the U.S will sooner or later stop. Because at some point Kenyans will realize that its not worth it to put yourself through the stress that is there. People go to the US because of the pressure to succeed. You can never get ahead with a 10-12 hr job. Get serious, I've seen people with real well paying jobs in Kenya come to America and ending up with $12/hr job. I guess the next question becomes how long do you expect to live like that ?? Because you're going to get old and at some point you'll not be able to keep up with the pace of the menial jobs. Kuweni Serious Aisee !!
@chris, just based on your comments alone - especially your very last sentence, you will likely be the type of person to get stuck in a 10-12hr job. A 12hr job here means a salary of about ksh174,000 per month. How many Kenyans in Kenya make that much? Income per capital of Kenya is $977 per YEAR ranked 152 out of 182 countries. So where do Kenyans in diaspora get all the money they send to needy family and to invest in Kenya? You want to tell us there is no stress in Kenya? This careless generalization of Kenyans in diaspora needs to stop.
I don't know who you are but I was just excersing my freedom of speech just like anybody else. All am saying is people need to stop trooping to the embassy thinking the U.S is a bed of roses. This does not make any sense because if you are lazy in kenya don't expect things to magically change your way in America. And NoWHERE in my comment did I say that there is no stress in Kenya.
All am saying is things have changed in the states from when I cam to this day, things are very different, its becoming harder and harder for immigrants and of you think a $10-12/hr job is going to pull you through then I AM SORRY, because my experience has taught me otherwise, and I have enough cases to prove this. I know that things are hard in Kenya but that does not make things any easier in the US. And for your information, I don't brag about what my income is, because when it comes to money I just obtain.
I'm hoping you have some of it!! Yes it means a salary of of 174k.. which is peanuts in N.America (US),remember they are living in the US, not Kenya. They slave to get that money which they send home. Let me add some more sense to your 2 cents sense, they work between 16hrs - 24hrs a day, you don't have a social life!!!!. That qualifies you as a modern day slave,thats America for you,no American will work for more than 8 hrs!!!,they'd rather draw some welfare. I lived in Oklahoma City for 9 years,graduated from University,worked there and came back home. This is t he true picture of "AMERICA" like or not!!!!!
Wow! And you claim to have obtained a university education? Did you buy a degree? So after you "graduated" how much did you earn? If you still made $12 per hr, it was a waste of time. The facts are that Kenya has an unemployment rate of about 42%, an income per capital of ksh10k per month. So don't mock some Kenyans who chose to come and "slave" here as you say to make ends meet. What would you rather they do? Steal? Have you seen the lines of workers heading to industrial area? what about the many graduates in Kenya, some with legal degrees who cant find work? It all depends on ones unique situation- dont generalize! The diaspora is now a major contributor to Kenya's economy! Those are just facts. Get this - NOT all Kenyans work menial jobs! Work 24hrs a day really? And what is part of the reason they work 16hrs overtime? - To take care of many Kenyans back home. Back to Kenya, many Kenyans in the middle class survive on CREDIT, the cost of living in Kenya is rising. So where is the sense in what you say? You sound like one of those bitter folks who were forced to relocate due to legal and other issues, to a point you are still keeping up with Mwakilishi while in Kenya.
@chris, my issue with your comments is you over generalize the predicament of some Kenya's here. You part of the reason some Kenyans think we all do menial jobs here. Not everyone makes 12hr per hour, everyone's situation is different! So it's careless to tell people to stop coming to US when their unique situation might benefit their move. There are many of us here quietly making a good living and investing at home. Some of us started with $12 hr jobs which with frugal and smart living can make ends meet. With the ever rising cost of living in Kenya, can you the imagine how many Kenyans survive with an income per capital of about ksh10,000 a month? That said we then need to discuss detailed specifics of who will benefit from a move and who won't. Lets not blut out careless comments with nothing to back it up. The numbers suggest many Kenyans would be glad to take the 12hr job. Kenyan unemployment rate is about a whopping 42%!!! even higher if you consider those grossly underemployed. When were you last in Kenya? Do you interact with the average Kenyan and hear their concerns? I doubt it.
Wanna talk about stress? Read this Mwakilishi story below. There are many Kenyans in a similar situation. I just hope minimum wage laws are enforced by the new administration. And if some of our brothers and sisters in this situation can qualify, may they apply for the DV lottery and win a green card. A security guard in America can make a decent living enough to afford them their daily basics and more.
Stress leads to depression. Most Kenyans don't know where to turn when they have mental health issues. There are a lot of free health clinics in the US that one can go and seek help. Unemployment, under-employment and low wages are affecting many people, not just immigrants. Unfortunately, when people are afraid, they take their frustrations on their loved ones. Please seek help, talk to someone and know that you are not alone. If we see our brethren suffering, lets encourage them to seek help before they hurt other innocent people, or themselves. For those who want to come to the US, think twice.
Stress is everywhere.....not only in Diaspora. Its just that diaspora cases are amplified.
Stress is not the only thing to blame. We can count mental illness too. But lets be most honest. Men of our tribal societies are harshly patriarchal. Women are treated like subhumans to be beaten, ignored, mistreated. We don't want to look at our ugliness. We can come up with excuses. But in the twenty years or so I have been here in America people are beginning to see this in East african men. Even other African immigrants are beginning to see an unhinged homocidal streak in men from East Africa. Remember that law enforcement in America communicates, creates profiles of offenders. The East African male offender is becoming understood. From wifebeating, to homocide, to suicide. Its not about America, its about us. Stop the lying. You know its true. How many women were beaten in your parents generation? Do you beat your girlfriend? Are you being beaten by your husband?
I assume you meant homicidal, not "homocidal." I strongly support your take on this issue.
Please don't generalize on the homicidal streak of "East African men". We are very diverse and we are not the same. From what I have seen, Luos, Luhyas, Coastal and Kalenin men rarely commit crimes when they are abroad or in Kenya to an extent. When they are "involved" in crimes it is mostly as victims.
This happened in the 60's 70's with African coming to the UK a fair few people had mental breakdowns , the stress of prejudice is very strong in America, I am a Nigerian in the UK my stress manifests as high blood pressure I am emotionally/mentally strong. These people who committed these acts have obviously do not have that capacity. I was on the Portobello Market the other day when a Caucasian American who physically recoiled at my presence, I can imagine it being worse in the US. They feel they are protecting their family, they probably sunk every penny coming to America, they realised it was not the place they thought it was. This article is a comment on American society.
Stress is not gender selective. Both women and men experience different stressors of varying degree in this country and anywhere in the world. The difference is, men and women handle their stressors differently. As a common rule, women express their feelings and the status of any relationship. Men do not, as a symbol of outdated, ineffective Kenyan man's stoicism and sign of strength. Trust me, many men would rather have a root canal without Novocaine than sit and share their feelings to anyone - especially to a woman! Therapy or counseling can be done privately, men need to realize that it's not all about gushing and weeping, Oprah-style. Problems are there to stay, the key is to learn to adapt, be flexible and to develop very effective coping mechanisms. Worse scenario, walk away before you loose control of your emotions.
There is no simple reason to warrant the kind of behavior which has continued to ill the diaspora.We know that in all societies people turn to alcoholism and drugs because of mental illness.In Kenya and most other social societies,there is support from Church,family and friends. Unfortunately,it's very difficult to make and maintain real friends not only in the diaspora but also in Kenya where most people both men and women have taken to drugs and alcohol leading to a mental imbalance.
We all must come together and fight the vice knowing so well that if we don't do it ,it will get to our children and generations to come.Lets not just be rhetorical but take a proactive approach ultimately we will start to see real results of saving one family at a time. Men have a responsibility of safeguarding the younger generation the way we know how and only when we Man Up and rise to our call of a brother's keeper and sister's keeper will be set free of whatever mental illness(stress and all) that we tend to blame for our shortcomings.
stresss? huyo kijana killed in indiana i hear he was beaten by a baseball butt juu ya mshichana
I have lived here in USA for about 15 years. Lucky for me i had siblings he b4 i came. @ least I knew where i was "landing" I have seen people here struggle to settle. It takes one @ least 3 yrs to start getting to understand the lifestyle here. Culture-shock is a huge thing. People who win green cards always think they are going to a "mini-heaven". US can be very frustratiing esp for pple with little education.
On the other hand i blame the US govt and the State department in particular. When someone wins a green card or get such visas as student visas, you guys shud hold workshops to educate these pple about the real America. Pple come here expecting heaven on earth. I think the former envoy to US put it right, but what did he do to correct the situation? If one settles down USA can be a very great place to live. Law and order works here. there is ample security. Jobs are there if you posses any kind of diploma.
@ Uongo, he he he! you cracked me up! It is a baseball bat, not "butt"!
You need to stop drawing stupid conclusions about kenyan men. I've had enough of this kenyan men bashing. this generalization is absurd.
Some of you seem to have a pathological hate for Kenyan men. If that is the case you should find better things to do with your time.
Am really interested in knowing the identities of some of the people posting comments on this website, because this is becoming ridiculous.
Then u do what @ Ogutu?
@ Ogutu, freedom of speech! Shida yako ni nini? If you can't handle other people's opinions then quit reading the comments! Glad i made you unhappy! Ha ha ha! You made my day. Niko hapa, what can you do??
Ogutu yawaa...I know GG, Commonsense, Chris, Roho Safi and Alittlecommonsense. I car pool with one one them, drink with the last one, worship with the second one, hang out with the third one, share jokes with a least two of them. What do you think? What do you want? Give me a call. Oriti ahinya.
Stress of being unemployed or beind stuck in low-end menial jobs, coupled with low self esteem, plus stereotypical archaic macho attitude of abusing wives/girlfriends mentally and phyisically, is a deadly cocktail. Many Kenyans who are naive enough to think like Commonsense that working 12-hr jobs for a mere Kshs 174,000 ($2,000) pm is such a great thing because there are few people in Kenya who earn such money in Kenya, are the ones most affected by stress and low stream. Sooner or later they realize that, although Ksh 174,000 is a lot of money in Kenya, $2000 ($1500 take home pay) is not enough for a family of 4 in the US. This is one of the major problems facing Kenyan men and women who instead of achieving advanced professional education got distracted by the lure of easy money from minimum wage jobs. Another major problem with Kenyans in the USA is lack of involvement in their communities. All over the US there are Kenyan community organizations, but in most cases, the people who are actively involved are very few. There are Kenyans who never participate in Kenyan events or attend Kenyan churches; only to appear when they have a calamity in their family and need support from the community then retreat back to their caves! If we were to unite and each of us become actively involved in their communities, the level of stress and lack of self-esteem could be effectively addressed and such awful incidents averted or at least minimized.
@Kenjuu, so there is no stress elsewhere? Can you ask the average Kenyan the stress of living on about $2 a day, with few job prospects in a country with 42% unemployment rate, ever rising cost of living, poor housing and security issues? You want to tell me this average Kenyan won't mind working many hours but at least have a job, transportation, decent housing and not worry about where the next meal will come from? Some middle class and higher Kenyans just don't understand how the average Kenyan survives, and some in this middle class live on CREDIT, month to month, hand to mouth, and live lifestyles they can't afford and turn back and make fun of some in diaspora working hard to make ends meet. Family of 4 with two working spouses you can still make ends meet, just live within your means. I see many Mexicans and other immigrants from developing nations make it. Don't look at things from a middle class perspective alone, along with the egos and pride that come with it. The 80/20 rule still applies here. Some diaspora will do better than others, some will struggle- just like anywhere else. At least here you have some safety nets to soften a hard landing especially if you are legal. The only thing I agree with you about is the social aspect - this is true is most developed nations. It is a disadvantage of living in a developed economy - people are busy working, that's part of the reason the economy is developed. Show me a country with too much social life and I will show you an economy still developing. Of course this is not always the case but it plays a major factor. So choose the path you want to take and stop generalizing! Just like Kenyans in Kenya are unique, so is the case in the diaspora.
CommonSense, I've read your threads, and you are spot on. This is the only country where a homeless man can maneuver his way to become a billionaire. While all of us might not be billionaires, with the right attitude and financial frugality, almost anyone can live a decent life in America. And please, people need to stop with this ridiculous idea that Kenya is somehow superior in the happiness spectrum. Kenya has one of the highest rates of alcoholism of anywhere on earth, that should explain something.
You are the most sensible and realistic human being so far! You hit the nail the head thanks to you. some people think, that amount of money or even much more for that matter is the solution for EVERYTHING, needs, wants, pleasures, problems and so on. By the time they realize that's not the case, they get frustrated, they hate fellow country men, and sometimes they do not achieve what is expected to them. Make money for goodness sake, cause no one will appreciate a lazy bone, but at the same time find sometime to find yourself, others and will know where you are and if you need to change the direction or continue. Is as simple as MONEY IS NOT EVERYTHING that is only for those who do not worship money as a "small god". When you love money to some LEVEL then, there's a problem.
Wolololo..... I realized most families in America do not work coz if you will work for 12hrs, when will you sit with your wife en children to have a chat. You will be always tired en stressed na wife akijipa shughuli then, there you are with a gun :( save enough money en come back home.
$12? most states pay $8-$10 per hour. people work 2 jobs. The drive nice cars and buy houses. Of coz this will cause stress anywhere in the world. The good thing abt this country is freedom. The law of the land is respected here. If u ant to know stress, go to canada.
This is puzzling to me. How do you conjure a financial crisis out of a social problem directly caused by American racist language, icons, historical views, and uncultured adults. Yes, if you are financially able to escape low-class and middle-class communities, give your children world-class education, and control your environment, you can avoid some contact with these underclasses that supplement their stresses and ignorance by assaulting cultural norms of others. This is the way of America. Listen to the rhetoric of so-called conservatives. The war is to keep Africans from striving in this country and subsequently assisting mother African in their rise. The greatest fear. We are looking at a local problem but the battle for fair immigration laws speaks volumes to the American blind spot.
The only people here that are not descendant from immigrants are the African slaves brought over. The rest are all immigrants. This is point number one.
Two, the news paints Africa as this unruly mob of ignorant savages still. Battles, similar to what is going on here, are highlighted as some outrageous strange event. Battles are happening in every country. The ignorant absorb the headlines with no knowledge of the culture, mores, and language signs and signifiers of Africans. They make fun of the people and customs. Insult the children in schools until they adopt the whatever attitudes of the American children. The Asian community suffered this during their early days of mass exodus. The African Americans have been fighting this for centuries. The rich are able to globally educate their children. The poor and just above can barely get their children to read properly. To counter culture, slack Americans cite, "A person can only do what you let them do." For a communal people, this is hazardous, for in order to have an open door policy with your neighbors and friends, personal respect and accountability is necessary. If the young Kenyans learn this mantra, they toss their culture out of the window for the sake of fitting in. They can't be trusted, so now your neighbor has to be monitored, inspected, and held at arms length whether they be African or any other ethnicity.
Denial has kept this country spinning out of control. My mom went through this when she came from St. Kitts back in the 1950's and it is worse now because in a fever for world domination,we must make others savage and not worthy of respect. After just one day of this in a poor society, of course people want to kill themselves. But Americans have their mantras that justify their mental cannibalism. Read: Black Psychology, an anthology of psychologist, philosophers, and authors investigating the dual relationship Africans must battle to live in Western countries, by Reginald King.
Only if our leaders would believe in our continent AFRICA, we have the brains in africa, we have the Raw materials, and we have excess labour.
I see no reasons why we come to this country and suffer and then stress ourselves out over bills and the rest that comes with it....
Yes i know its hard to preach to the people back home to stay and develop the country, its hard to tell your friends and family not to seek for greener pastures.
Now my stress is why im i here? i can do better back home if.... the question if could tranlate to many things.
- Racism (yes racism in Africa
and the list goes on..... we as Africans, Kenyans
I live here n for a fact stress le el among immigrants trying to make it can be high. Sometimes we forget our goal with minimum wages, we get n engage 'n uncalled of deeds.if u work hard go yo school n stay focus u can see the fruits it only takes a couple of years but at the end its fruit full. Don't live others lives choose your own destiny follow the right people booze disco women will always. E thea forever. M anage. Your income however small for the start n u will see the different world over the problem is the same bad economy.
umesema ukweli kabisa.....this man commonsense(umeni bamba sana)....tell them tell them!
I came here in the US 10 yrs ago, did the $10-12hr so called "slave jobs" while going to school, supported my parents and siblings including cuzos...paid their tuition back home in kenya, rent, food etc......i graduated..got a much better job paying me 6 figure $ job.. built a multimillion ksh home for my family, settled my mum, siblings etc...
If some of you will see the amount of remitance from dispora to motherland mtashangaa!! and if this stops.. I cant tell you the # of families that will colapse back home. so dont think all of us here are struggling....and FYI, i have seen so many 10-12hr families doing so great. I travel to kenya frequently and oh boy!..sisemi kitu. I used to see the flashy cars roaming in the city, coasto etc and thought kenyans were way better...they are but only a %. The 42% unemployment is the truth. Most kenyans are languishing in poverty and would appreciate the $10 jobs, and trust me they will do good. As commonsense (my guy) puts it....dont generalise...situations za watu ni different i say! to each, his own.....
@Rashad, karibu ndugu yangu. Congratulations on your achievements in America and for doing your part in building Kenya. Kudos.
very true ,i used to work as a CNA at nursing home in America for about $8/hr.I did this untill i finished school.Today am blessed with a $50HR JOB.There are so many Kenyans making good money here,people like us don't have to say much, we just invest in properties back home and help our families live better lives.To some extent we creat jobs for our local communities in kenya ,or who do you think does construction of our properties.We hire fundis,electricians,casual laboures,lorry drivers,painters e.t.c.
Next time you see a Kenyan sweeping floors in the streets of Newyork or cutting grass in Atlanta to make school fees, by all means leave the person alone. follow the kikuyu saying that when one decides to go to the dance floor,it's him who knows how he will dance.
It is very very heartbreaking when we hear of our people being pushed to the extent of killing one another or themselves (suicides). I personally understand that predicament.
If I were asked, I would tell any kenyan who feels that their time in the States is up,they need to organize their return home (east,west, home is best). By organizing, I mean that they need to find out before hand what they can be able to do in terms of employment or self-employment.
The transition from the US to KEN would be very uncomfortable sine as we know most jobs paid every two weeks and so finances were flowing more regularly that monthly salaries. With this in mind,it would be very depressing not being able to have a semi constant flow of money instead of every end month.
My decision to return home willingly from the States was one of the best decisions I ever made. Of course few or nobody understands but if you feel it in your heart that you want to come back home (hopefully you have accomplished the reason for your going to the States, then save up and buy a one way ticket home. Opportunities are here and having lived in America you know how to work hard and smart (hope you can handle that), But one of the best consolation statement to let you feel FREE to return home is that no body chased me from my beautiful home of Kenya". I am very very sorry for the families that have lost their loved ones in any of these ways but let us learn that coming back home is a very very OK thing and also, let us be able to understand our people and tell them that if you are stressed or depressed here in this foreign land then most probably your time to be here at this present time is up, try and tell him/her this:-
"If your VISA has expired, Go back home and chill out their and give yourself about ten years and try to visit the US again, most probably you will be feeling much better and you may not even want to live back here at all. ,